🌟 Remarkable Monday, Jan. 29

Here’s to a REMARKABLE MONDAY, my friend! Let’s get right to it.

Stealth Expectations

Have you ever made an agreement, held a standard, or set an intention within yourself, assuming that someone should instinctively understand or agree with you?

Researcher and storyteller BrenĆ© Brown terms these elusive desires as "stealth expectations." They have a way of slipping beneath the radar and frequently escaping notice. But today, we’re calling them out because I am getting the sense that these unspoken expectations are hindering you.

I contend that stealth, or unspoken expectations, may be impacting you at home, work, and everywhere in between. And if left unchecked, they can erode the very life you are trying to build day in and day out.

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When we develop expectations, we paint a vivid picture in our head of how things are going to be, look and feel, and—riskiest of all—how the people around us will behave and respond.

BrenƩ Brown, PhD

This week, I invite you to speak about what you really want out of your interactions with truth and clarity. Expressing your wants, desires, fears, and, most importantly, hopes is 100% worth it. It helps those around you to find their place in your support system rather than serving as unintended weights or obstacles to derail your intended course.

You’ve been blessed to breathe in the breath of life today. Why waste it resisting misaligned relationships? Just think about everything that should have taken you down by now but failed. You are a living testament of God-given grace. So, let’s collectively drop our weapons and armor for unnecessary warfare. We can devote that energy to building our lives and the lives, businesses, or initiatives of those around us with purpose.

Today, we call an end to diminishing the greatness inside and ahead of you by withholding the truth of your experience, intuitions, intentions, and expectations.

It’s time to give them a voice if you have not already. It is my sincerest hope that you allow others the privilege of supporting you in becoming the best version of yourself, whether through encouragement or exits.

INSPIRATION
Why you should put yourself first

Relationship expert Iyanla Vanzant says it's not selfish to put yourself first—it's self-full. Find out why Iyanla says you have to be good to yourself first if you want to be of service in life.

ASK AN EXPERT
Are you afraid to ask for what you want?

Inspired by his book ā€œNot Nice,ā€ Dr. Aziz Gazipura explores how to stop people pleasing, staying silent, and feeling guilty about self-advocacy. Additionally, he lays out the roadmap on how to start speaking up, saying no, asking boldly, and unapologetically being yourself.

INSPIRATION
ā€œWe don't want that little voice to get to say, ā€˜I told you so.’ That's really what we're afraid of 

Too often, we don’t go for what we want because we are afraid – of being rejected, looking bad, or being judged for it. As a result, we miss out on our biggest opportunities. Best-selling author Bryan Falchuk shares why we need to ask for what we really want in life and how to do it.

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I hope this message finds you well. I’m sharing from my heart in hopes that you will be inspired to unearth and live out your God-given purpose. Hopefully, something I said resonated. I would love to hear from you if so. Please feel free to reach out to me on social media. FYI: I’m mostly active on Instagram these days. If you were forwarded this message, you can subscribe here to receive thoughts like this directly in your inbox. And don’t forget to check out the latest episode of my podcast, ConvoRoom with Mark Allen Patterson.

See you next week,